I can’t even imagine the amount of courage it took for the girl to come forward and for it to all just be thrown back in her face – it just goes to show how pronounced victim blaming is. Might I also mention that the barista that brought the underwear to light was female! What happened to girl power and feminism? As a result of the outcome the female has gone on to commit suicide which is absolutely terrible after the case left her feeling humiliated and degraded – something she would have already felt as a result of the rape itself.
I should feel comfortable going on a night out and wearing a cute lacy bodysuit* with a pair of skinny jeans and heels…I shouldn’t be worried about what anyone else thinks but I do. I have big boobs which seems to mean if I show even a glimpse that I’m being overly sexually and making it okay for them to be stared at and commented upon. It’s not but it’s taken me years to accept my boobs and be comfortable with them – so why should someone that’s an A cup be able to wear cute bodysuits but I can’t?
I’m hoping that this case sheds even more light over the sexualisation of inanimate objects. Hopefully it won’t be brushed under the carpet and something with actually be done to highlight just how disgusting and just plain stupid it is to use someones underwear – a garment that isn’t intended for anyone else other than the wearer – as evidence in a rape case.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE
Despite what you are led to believe if are or know anyone that has been a victim of sexual harassment, assault or rape then there is someone out there that you can talk to. Even if you don’t wish to name your attacker you can receive help and support. When the #MeToo campaign was around Victoria shared some services you can contact and I wish to share them again;
Confidential emotional support for children, young adults and adults by telephone, email and post.
CISters (Surviving Rape and/or Sexual Abuse) – 02380 338080
Or you can email firstname.lastname@example.org
The helpline is available to female adult survivors of childhood rape/sexual abuse, and others can call if they have a concern about such issues.
The National Association for People Abused in Childhood (NAPAC)
Call 0808 801 0331 free from all landlines and mobiles.
The NAPAC provides a national freephone support line for adults who have suffered any type of abuse in childhood.
Rape Crisis Helpline – 0808 802 9999 (12-2:30 and 7-9:30)
National organisation offering support and counselling for those affected by rape and sexual abuse.
Rape and sexual assault
The services are confidential, free and available to anyone who has been raped or sexually assaulted, now or in the past. They can help, regardless of whether you have told the police or anyone else about the attack. Their volunteers can visit you at home (if you want them to, and if doing so will not put you at further risk) or somewhere else if you prefer.
Survivors UK – Male Rape and Sexual Abuse Support
NHS Choices – Help after rape and sexual assault
Sexual violence is a crime, no matter who commits it or where it happens.
Please don’t be afraid to get help.
All photos within this post were taken by myself on my Olympus Pen E-PL7 with 45mm lens in natural lighting. They were then edited on Lightroom CC.